What Women Want: Reversing The Game

What women want from men has generated a series of (never ending) discussion. It is by far the most common of all of men’s worries. Google gave me links to a number of lists of things that women want men to do and not very surprisingly, I agreed with most of the things. Here, check this list of 50 things women want men to do.

The most featured tip was (again, not a surprise) that women felt that men should already know what they want (exactly how I used to think too). That tip is problematic for me because this assumption that men should know is completely wrong and it causes a lot of trouble in relationships- I mean come on, how many times has it happened that you’re sulking because he flirted with someone else (in front of you), and he’s blissfully unaware of it? And we all know how that fight escalates!

The ironical part of this tip is that often in lists, this tip comes with the golden rule of communicating. Women like being communicated to, but when it comes to communicating what they want/need, this rule goes for a toss.

Enough has been said about the women and how they create this situation of confusion for men (and themselves). It is now time to cross the bridge and see how men over-exaggerate this problem and use it to their advantage. Well first off, they keep complaining about how we don’t tell them our problems and expect them to guess. But guess what? When you do tell them exactly what you want, then they don’t know what to do either!

So I started this new thing with my boyfriend. I now tell him exactly everything I want. For example: romantic gestures, support when I need, my need to be communicated to... everything. And it’s not surprising that he still doesn’t know what to do, but at least now he cannot blame me. I feel that maybe men like to live in this doubt, even though we give them a billion signs- verbal and nonverbal- about what we really want. It is like the only excuse for whatever reason it is that they don't like doing those things. So the least we women can do is throw this argument back at them. Don’t give him the chance to say “I don’t know what you want”. Tell him.