A-Morality

I have a confession: Despite my love for the Victorian era and British propriety, (Oh, you’ll know if you see the Jane Austen series) I pride myself on being amoral. It irks me to see people constantly obsess about what is right or wrong, what they should or shouldn’t do and so on. I just don’t have a punitive superego, actually sometimes I wonder whether I even have one or not.

Anyhow, when it comes to relationships I really feel that “everything is fair in love”- as long as you’re honest about it. Sigh. There comes the first “moral” contradiction that lies in being an amoralist, but just so that it’s clear- I do believe that being humane should be top priority. Then comes doing whatever the hell you want. So no, wife-beating and cheating on your partner is NOT fair in love.

I believe in freedom of feelings. That’s what I mean by being amoral in love. It saddens me to see so many questions of what people (especially women) ought to feel. What the hell does that mean anyway? Forums are filled with questions like “my boyfriend did/does blah blah and I feel so bad about it. 


"SHOULD I feel bad? Or am I overreacting?” Questions like these and replies to them obviously help people feel better by seeing that they’re not the only ones killing themselves over such feelings. I'm no agony aunt, but I feel that they’re oxymoronic. I mean, read your question- you already feel bad. Sure, people could make you feel better by acknowledging (or worse, judging) how you feel, but them telling you that you shouldn't feel the way you're feeling won't change anything, will it?

Also, just an observation: “My boyfriend is amazing, should I feel nice?” doesn't seem to be half as popular.

Feelings don't need censorship, those who pass judgement on them do. "Because I feel so" is a perfectly appropriate answer.

P.S: It’s funny how the moral of the story is to be amoral. Ugh, contradictions.

There's a right way, a wrong way- and then there is the way you feel.