Most of my desire to get married comes from movies. Marriage for me is about companionship and movies always show that, however an attempt has to be made in order to look beyond the glossy, larger than life story that is often portrayed.
So here is a list of movies that make me want to marry (in descending order).
FIVE:
In-laws seem to be a common theme, and more often than not they are interfering, annoying and cause a lot of trouble. This movie has toned down the interference (which in real life is rare. I mean COME ON. How often do mother-in-laws try to poison their daughter-in-laws!) but it heightens what is often a hindrance in weddings. The eccentricities. This movie brings in 2 people from very different cultures and the different perspectives that is often thrust upon a couple. Again, it’s a movie about survival and sticking to a big-fat-greek wedding rather than eloping. Now that I have written about it, it seems to me the Hollywood-version of Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge.
Lesson learnt: Compromise is the keyword.
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FOUR;
Marrying the high school sweetheart is the dream. More often than not, it is an unrequited dream. Why? Well because we all fear getting “stuck” with one person for the rest of our lives. Of course it is scary to not have any “options” to “choose” from. Bad excuse, I know. But such is nature. It’s not always a bad decision though. Anyhow, I am deviating. To get back to the point, sometimes you need a few months (or years in this case) to explore your options, but what this movie made me realize that true love haunts and hunts you down. I hated Rheese Witterspoon for being such a bitch, but all’s well that ends well. A husband who doesn’t let you go easily is a keeper. Hunt him down.
Lesson Learnt: In a relationship, there must be at least one person who doesn't give up.
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THREE:
Running away, escaping, and denying your love for another is much easier than standing up for them. It takes courage, a virtue that I wish more men possessed. Once you emerge victorious, you’ll see that your love went through ALL of that and survived- always a happy feeling. I would love to survive something with a person.
Lesson Learnt: What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
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TWO:
Femme Fatale meets the man who any girl would die for and plays around with his life. I sense that it’s not the perfect love story, definitely not one I would want. However, what I would want is that passionate relationship that Angelina Jolie and Antonio Banderas shared. It would be very difficult to get bored in such a marriage surely!
“If someone would bring me my coffee every morning before I dressed, I would be very happy. It would change the day.”
– Angelina Jolie, The Original Sin.
What I like about this quote is that even in a movie so dramatic, there is scope for the mundane things and the happiness you get out of them in a marriage.
Lesson Learnt: You just cannot walk away from true love.
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ONE:
For me, this movie is about how the differently the mundane things in marriage can be interpreted. For her, it was about having a witness to her life whereas for him, it was about finding an interest away from his wife. I wouldn’t have liked the movie had Richard Gere not redeemed himself by the end of it. I think it’s important to let the other person in when you’re married.
I think this quote should suffice:
“We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness”
- Susan Saradon, Shall We Dance
Lesson Learnt: Oh well, Susan said it all. Marriage is about sharing.
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